to hold up a relationship it needs a continuity in the communication. if the continuity doesn't exist, the relationship will fail.

often relationships fail because a lack of communication or a completely different communication style. the questions raised by the failure are now left to be answered as a single person.

how did we communicate? about what did we speak, about what not? what said i over and over again, but was never heard? what do i think i did communicate, but in fact never did ?

the contents of communication is often no longer available, the letters burned, the emails deleted, the phone calls forgotten.

in my case a list of the phone calls is left over. the time, the duration, the day but also: there is only the data of my calls, her part is missing.